Sexual Slang: What It Means, Why It Matters, and Common Terms You Should Know

Ever heard someone say “Netflix and chill” or “get lucky” and wondered what they really meant? That’s sexual slang - informal words people use when talking about sex, often in funny, clever, or coded ways. These terms pop up everywhere - from songs and movies to social media and text messages. But what exactly is sexual slang, why do people use it, and how can you understand it without feeling awkward or confused? This guide will break down what sexual slang is, where it comes from, and give you a list of common examples so you’re not left guessing. Whether you’re trying to keep up with what your friends are saying or just want to feel more informed, we’ve got you covered.

What is Sexual Slang?

Sexual slang refers to casual or humorous words people use to describe sexual things - like body parts, actions, or relationships - without sounding too serious or medical. Instead of saying "have sex," someone might say “hook up” or “smash.” Instead of "vagina" or "penis," people might say "vajayjay" or "junk." These words help people talk about sex more comfortably (or secretly), especially in informal settings like conversations with friends or on social media.

Why Do People Use Sexual Slang?

There are a few main reasons why people prefer slang instead of straightforward terms:

• To avoid sounding too serious or awkward: Saying “make love” might feel too emotional, while “have sex” can sound too clinical.
• To sound cool, funny, or relatable: Slang makes things sound more casual and modern.
• To talk in code: Sometimes, people don’t want others (like parents or strangers) to know exactly what they mean.
• Because of pop culture[1]: Songs, movies, memes, and TikTok trends constantly create and spread new slang terms.

Types of Sexual Slang

Sexual slang can describe lots of different things. Here are the main types:

1. Slang for Sex or Hookups

These are the most common and often change with trends:

Term

What It Means

Hook up

To kiss or have sex casually, without a relationship

Smash

To have sex (often used playfully or casually)

Netflix and chill

An invite to hang out and likely hook up (not really about Netflix)

Get laid

To have sex (usually after effort or flirting)

Bang

A blunt way to say have sex

One-night stand

Having sex with someone once, without further plans

DTF

Acronym for “Down to F***,” meaning ready for casual sex

Friends with Benefits

Friends who have sex but are not dating

  Note: Some of these may sound funny, but they still talk about real actions and emotions - so it’s important to understand and use them responsibly.

2. Slang for Body Parts

People often use slang to refer to private parts in a lighter or more discreet way.

Term

What It Refers To

Junk

Male genitals

Vajayjay

Vagina

Package

Penis/testicles

Coochie

Vagina (informal/cutesy)

Eggplant

Penis (emoji code)

Taco

Vagina (emoji code)

3. Slang for Flirting or Romantic Steps

Sometimes, sexual slang uses metaphors like sports or food to describe how far things go physically:

Term

Meaning

First base

Kissing

Second base

Touching above the waist

Third base

Touching below the waist or oral sex

Home run

Having full sex

Make out

Intense kissing, sometimes with touching

4. Euphemisms (Mild or Polite Slang)

These words describe sex or attraction in a softer or more polite way:

Term

Meaning

Sleep together

To have sex (sounds gentler)

Make love

Sex with emotional connection

Fool around

Kissing or sexual touching

Get lucky

Successfully having sex (often unexpectedly)

How Does Sexual Slang Spread?

Most sexual slang spreads through:

• Social media (TikTok, Instagram, Reddit)
• Movies, TV shows, and music
• Texting and memes
• Regional sayings and dialects (e.g., British people say “shag,” Australians might say “root”)

What’s popular in one place or generation might sound strange or outdated in another.

Is All Sexual Slang Appropriate?

Not always. Some terms may be funny or flirty among friends, but can also:

• Sound offensive or rude, especially in public or mixed company
• Be used as insults or slurs[2] (like “slut” or “manwhore”)
• Mislead someone about your intentions

Note: Always think about your audience and the situation. What’s okay in private might not be okay in class, at work, or with someone you don’t know well.

Why Understanding Sexual Slang Matters

Even if you don’t use slang yourself, it’s important to understand what others mean when they use it. Here’s why:

• Avoid miscommunication: You’ll know if someone’s being flirty, joking, or inappropriate.
• Protect yourself: Some slang can be red flags, especially online.
• Stay current: Understanding slang helps you feel included in conversations and pop culture.
• Make informed decisions: Knowing what terms really mean can help you set boundaries and make safe choices.

Quick Tips for Using or Hearing Sexual Slang

• Look up terms you don’t know before using them.
• Don’t assume everyone means the same thing - ask or clarify if needed.
• Think before you speak - especially in texts or online, where messages can spread fast.
• Respect personal boundaries - slang doesn’t give you a pass to be inappropriate.

When to Avoid Using Sexual Slang

• In formal or professional settings
• When talking to people you don’t know well
• If the term is offensive or a slur
• Around teachers, parents, or authority figures (unless it’s part of a safe or educational convo)
• When someone asks you not to

Final Thoughts: Sexual Slang Is Normal - but Use It Wisely

Sexual slang is everywhere. It’s part of how people joke, flirt, share, and sometimes hide their feelings. There’s nothing wrong with knowing or using it - but it’s important to be respectful, responsible, and clear about what you mean. If you ever feel unsure, it’s okay to ask or skip the slang altogether. Understanding sexual slang isn’t about being “cool.” It’s about being informed, safe, and confident in how you communicate.